I can’t believe we’ve come to midsummer already! Within 50 miles of where Joe and I live there is an event/fair/festival going on every single weekend since June came around (and several before that and during the week too!) and it will be this way until the end of August. Minnesotans take summer very seriously! They do all that they possibly can to fit in as much outdoor activities as possible in the summer. There are, of course, events that Joe and I avoid like the plague simply because we are locals and just know that getting there and dealing with the crowd and the tourists just won’t be worth it for us. The truth is as well that no matter how many festivals and fairs Joe and I get to almost nothing beats just the two of us sitting around our bonfire in our backyard. Still though, that knowledge does not change the inexplicable suddenness of HURRY WE CAN’T WASTE A SINGLE SECOND!!!! And that’s just how it is when you live in a harsh climate. Locals are just like that dog in Dr Doolittle in the spring time waiting, waiting, waiting, throw the ball, throw the ball, throw the ball! Come on summer would you get here already!? And then BOOM summer is here and we are sprinting from dawn until dusk wondering what the hell it was we were so excited and anxious about because oh-my-gosh how we run ourselves ragged.
(Our peonies came and went WAY too quickly! They were gorgeous!!!)
Because when the weather finally turns and things warm up we always seem to forget (after that long long winter) that besides all of our summer plans generally all of our day jobs double in work as well. (The town we live near literally more then doubles in population every summer) So we go from winter, barely having enough work, begging the elements to bring on some summer to having so much work and things we want to do that we just don’t know how we’re going to get it all done. I had made a pact with myself to start doing more “touristy” things and enjoying all of the fairs a festivals around here that I can so Joe and I have been doing just that. We also made plans for camping over in Itasca State Park and I am refusing to worry about not getting everything else done. Camping with my man is #1.
(Our spring and early summer flowers bowed out to the stunning day lilies in my Grandma’s old perennial flower bed!)
I wrote a blog post a few weeks ago talking about finding time with Joe and prioritizing our time together and it has really been going good! I think its all in my head but sometimes we need just to change our perspectives, putting time together in the number one slot really took a tremendous load off of me. I had no idea how stressed I had become about getting everything done this summer until I commanded myself to realize that none of it was the most important thing anyway! What a difference it has made 🙂 Now, when we do spend time together, I find I’m not worrying about other things near as much, I am learning to relax. Joe’s really gotten into the swing of the idea too and I’ve found us taking walks and strolls, going to festivals and fairs, eating cheese curds while casually watching parades – making dates together. I can’t believe we’re already to midsummer: we actually just went to a “midsummer festival” so it is official: summer is half way over… 🙁
So, how are we still getting all of our work done and somehow able to take “strolls” together???? By splitting our forces! (Who knew spending time a part could create better and more meaningful time together?!) We give each other full rein to go and do whatever it is the other needs to do alone without expecting the other join us. This is easy for us now because we know when we’ll have time together next and we make certain the other knows that, no matter our work load or obligations, spending time with the other one is still the most important thing. A good example is Joe having to drive to pick up/drop off his son and early on in our relationship I always felt obligated to go with him. Now we both realize that one: his obligations need not always be mine (and vice versa!) two: That’s a great time for them to be alone together and three: Those few hours I get here alone at the house every other weekend has given me the chance to get a HUGE amount of work done! So, by the time Joe gets back he gets my full attention and I’m not feeling like I wasted hours on a car ride. (I am NOT good at doing nothing.) We’ve found this to be true in other areas as well! In the end it was about using our time better!
So cheers to midsummer – may the rest of our days be as good as our last month and may we ALWAYS remember that the most important thing is each other.