Valentines day on the old farmstead

Feb 17 2017
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I’ve been thinking about spring a lot lately. (This time of the year I think just about EVERY Minnesotan is thinking about spring!!) After getting absolutely hammered with snow and cold like hasn’t been seen in nearly a decade we have received our first real reprieve. For the last two weeks we’ve seen highs in the above freezing temperatures and some serious highs are coming this weekend! After that? Well… lets just say its pretty snowy and cold on the extended forecast. (Which should surprise no one.) For now though the sound of water dripping off the roof and the bare patches of ground showing through all of our snow is absolutely incredible and seeing multiple folks wearing shorts (including my husband) is always great for making me feel like summer really is coming!

UPDATE: December 15th, 2017. Joe and I are now divorced. I will not be deleting blog posts like this one as it is still a diary to some extent of my past and that still matters to me. I wish I had been more honest about how things were going to you guys here on the blog… I thought things would get better. There was always something: once this happens then he won’t be so angry… But, eventually, he ran out of excuses and I had to face my reality that I was wrong about Joe in every way possible. Grandma’s house is completely mine so now it can actually become what I dreamed it would be on all those late nights alone when I was renovating it. Happiness does not always come the way we expect it to (sometimes it even takes a broken heart to get us there) but I still believe in happy endings!

So, I’ve determined that I need a vacation. This time of the year I often find myself in a bored, crabby and cranky rut with no end in sight. Admittedly I am not the easiest to get along with when I get this way and my history of depression and endless anxiety helps none at all. (We’re just gonna say that Joe is a saint for putting up with me and leave it at that.) Of course, now that I’m older, I am FULLY aware that things are going to get better and I’ve learned to focus on things I’m looking forward to. I am planning on taking a WHOLE week off from my day job in March! I am so excited. I did the math and it is no wonder I’m going out of my mind! This is the first time in four years I have taken time off just for a vacation, all the other times was so I could work on something else lol.

Valentines day at Grandma's House DIY. Getting through the winter blues and rut and crabbiness, looking forward to vacation.

Of course I won’t be laying around doing nothing (at least not the entire time) I’m planning some projects and things I can do around the house. But, first thing is first, no matter what I’m planning I have given myself permission to get NONE of it done. No pressure. I am literally going to allow myself to accomplish nothing for a week (if that’s what I feel like doing) and I can’t wait.

Joe is on the opposite end of the spectrum from me and I’ve had to remind myself several times not to chew his head off. He has been waiting for a new big stone job to start for nearly two months (it was supposed to start in January) and the poor guy has just about lost his mind. Of course me being on the opposite end, feeling like I need a break from everything so bad, has meant that we’ve butted heads a couple of times. I actually quite like having a house husband 😉 The man has cleaned the entire house from top to bottom once a week for the last few weeks and, I tell ya what, it is awesome! He even had me make him a list of all the things that need fixing on the house that I haven’t had a chance to get to. He’s putting his ice fishing gear up and away as I’m typing this (even though he could still be fishing for another month or two) he’s actually managed to fish so much that he’s sick of it! And, if that’s not a testament to how bored and ready to work my husband is, then I don’t know what is! We’re both climbing the walls in opposite ways.

Valentines day at Grandma's House DIY. Getting through the winter blues and rut and crabbiness, looking forward to vacation.

Valentine’s day is already turning out wonderful for us. (I’m typing this at noon on Valentines day though it won’t publish until Friday.) Joe asked me several times if he could take me out (he would rather never go out so just him being willing and asking means a lot to me) but I just wasn’t feeling it. The last time we went out on Valentine’s day every place was insanely busy, the cost of the meal was ridiculous and it just didn’t seem worth it at all. So, we picked up our favorite foods and we’re going to make that for ourselves at home instead. We’ll get a better meal then we could ever get at a restaurant, we’re going to have a better time because we’ll be in our pajamas and its going to save us a bunch of money! Scallops, mussels and shrimp sauteed in garlic butter and a couple bottles of our favorite wine – yummers. I can’t wait to get home tonight 🙂

This morning Joe was up and out of the house before I even got out of bed. I thought, “What the heck?” But the man’s a morning person (the complete opposite of me who usually still has pillow lines on her face when she stumbles to work at 9) so I didn’t think twice about it. We passed each other on my way to work and he waved on his way home. Then I got to work and that man is just wonderful. He wanted to get there before me to drop off a card, a dozen roses and a teddy bear. I’ve never once received anything so lovely and girly for Valentine’s day in my life and this after losing my damned mind on him! The man is a saint.

Valentines day at Grandma's House DIY. Getting through the winter blues and rut and crabbiness, looking forward to vacation.

Last weekend Joe asked if he could help me get our bed frame complete. (The official post will be coming out on Monday and will include all of the tips, tricks and the full tutorial and explanation of how we did it etc.) So, on Sunday, we tackled it and have been singing hallelujah ever since, my goodness I wish we had done it so much sooner! Already, both of our backs are so much less sore then before! Here’s a sneak peak!

Tutorial how to build your own platform bed using 2x6s. Easy, Workshop, DIY.

So, in conclusion, winter is long here in northern MN and I’m real glad to see it finally winding down. (And my husband is too if only for his wife’s sanity!) There are times when our opposites are great for us (me being a summer person, him being a winter person – me being a night owl, him being a morning dove) and other times we struggle to find common ground. By March Joe will be working again and I will finally have my break and, by then, spring really will finally be here and I just need to remind myself that every season passes, good or bad, and I think for us its all good and important.

How about you guys? Are you as ready for spring as I am!?

Valentines day at Grandma's House DIY. Getting through the winter blues and rut and crabbiness, looking forward to vacation.

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Candy Walsh

What a great post! You made me laugh this morning my friend and feel for you at the same time!! I know what cabin fever feels like and it’s the worst! But you definitely have a keeper in Joe and him in you of course! Like me and mine ~ opposites attract!!
Love ya!


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